Why you should move out of your hometown/state
I actually had another blog post planned for today, but I have been thinking about this topic a lot lately and felt like this was more important. A lot of high schools are graduating within the next few weeks, so I thought that is would be perfect timing for this post. If you don’t know, I grew up in a small town in Maine (the whole state is basically a small town). I went to college for two years there and I knew from the beginning that I didn’t want to live my whole life there. One day, I closed my eyes and picked a place on the map and decided I was moving. It was the BEST decision I could have ever made. Yes, it was terrifying and difficult, it still is sometimes, but it was worth every challenge I had to overcome.
Here is why.
When you grow up and are around the same people your ENTIRE life, it can become toxic. Everyone knows you and is following your entire life. They know all your mistakes, challenges, accomplishments, everything you have ever done basically. Imagine not being able to delete those embarrassing Instagram/Facebook photos. That’s what it's like being around the same people every day. It is extremely difficult to move on from your past. Good or bad. You are also forced to compare yourself to these people 24/7. You all went to the same school, had the same friends, lived in the same area, so why isn’t he/she doing as good as he/she is? You are constantly trying to do better or the same as those people and that is not a good environment for anyone to be in.
Living in the same place your whole life severely limits what you think you can do. Without Realizing It, you start to limit what you think you can do. If most of the people in your town do similar jobs, you start to see that as normal. For example, not one person in my town was an entrepreneur. I didn’t even consider that to be a job until I moved away. I never envisioned a job that I could work for myself. My views on what was “normal” drastically changed when I got out of my towns bubble.
Speaking of jobs, it is crazy to see how many opportunities come when you leave your town. If I would have stayed in my hometown, I know for a fact that I would not be doing the same things I am now, and I would not have been given the same opportunities. Since moving away, I have been able to move into a beautiful townhouse, I got a pet pig (my dream), start my own clothing store online, do a little modeling, work with brands on Instagram, quit my regular job, and find my real passion.
Even if you are already living on your own, nothing can compare to when you are states away. You are forced to meet new people and to figure things out. Even though I still refuse to go to the doctor alone, I have still been surprised at the countless number of other things I learned how to do (fix a garbage disposal for instance). I had been living on my own for 2 years before I moved to Utah, but I feel like my life really began when I moved here.
There are still PLENTY of challenges that are thrown my way, as with any place that you live. It is just so much more satisfying when you know that you can count on yourself to get through them. I have also met my best friend here and a number of amazing people that I consider to be true friends. So, if you are thinking about leaving your state, do it! My dad always likes to say the phrase “we will figure it out.” I have found this to be so true. No matter what happens, you CAN figure it out. Leaving my home has taught me that and opened my eyes to so much more that I never even thought about.
So, if you have just graduated, congrats! But now you need to get out...because you are so much more than your hometown.